||[Aug. 18th, 2009|12:08 pm]
Deirdre Ionúin Gallagher
I'm still bummed about the Moscow show, but holding my head high and moving on...
...I'm wondering which name I should put in my babies' birth certificates under the 'father' section. It was a donor situation and I can tell you he wouldn't want his name there. And I don't think, by law, I can put Kait's name there. I don't know if it would make a difference if we made 'us' official with a civil union. I don't know...
I know, in the end, the official stuff doesn't matter because the babies will have so many people who love them. And Kait and I will be the mummies and no little piece of paper is going to change that. I also know Spectre is now all officially the other daddy of his husband Ash's son, so I know it can be done. It's just...argh. Official things suck.
And I'm leaving this public because it's real. It's an issue I'm facing, and I'm not the only one. Maybe I can put a human face on it, I suppose. So many people have to worry about things like this because the world can be such a backwards place. I am so thankful that I live in a place that allows me to marry who I want (or have a civil union, anyway) because I know other places don't even allow that. But we have a long way to go here, folks. A really long way to go.